Scriptural Text...1st Samuel 3:11-14 (New Living Translation) Then the Lord said to Samuel, “I am about to do a shocking thing in Israel. 12 I am going to carry out all my threats against Eli and his family, from beginning to end. 13 I have warned him that judgment is coming upon his family forever, because his sons are blaspheming God and he hasn’t disciplined them. 14 So I have vowed that the sins of Eli and his sons will never be forgiven by sacrifices or offerings.”
Introduction: When mentally and emotionally healthy, humanity has the general proclivity to help when they see others in need. Being of service isn't a bad thing, except when the provider or the recipient doesn't have good sense. Often the provider doesn't recognize that at some point they cease being of help and become an enabler and a crippler. They're so hyped by helping, that they need to be needed and just can't stop. On the other hand, the recipient doesn't know they've been crippled and are taking advantage of the provider's good will and mercy.
Transition: There's no clearer portrait of helping other people, that in turn hurts the provider of help, than the story of Eli and his two sons, Hophni and Phinehas...
Exposition: In hindsight, let's learn from Eli's mistakes of enabling and crippling his sons. He was helping them but it was hurting him...
1) Ignoring the truth won't change it...1st Samuel 2:22 " Now Eli was very old, but he was aware of what his sons were doing to the people of Israel. He knew, for instance, that his sons were seducing the young women who assisted at the entrance of the Tabernacle."
-God is watching how you're going to handle this. Your ailments (which everyone has) aren't a pass on being responsible.
-Past good has no bearing on present evil.
2) Allowing people to keep what they don't deserve or didn't earn is detrimental...1st Samuel 2:23-25 "Eli said to them, “I have been hearing reports from all the people about the wicked things you are doing. Why do you keep sinning? 24 You must stop, my sons! The reports I hear among the Lord’s people are not good. 25 If someone sins against another person, God can mediate for the guilty party. But if someone sins against the Lord, who can intercede?” But Eli’s sons wouldn’t listen to their father, for the Lord was already planning to put them to death."
-When it comes down to self preservation or helping someone with a hard head, that's a nonnegotiable! I choose me!
-Sometimes it's family that's the most trifling! However, friends may not have your blood but they can have your heart. Reference 1st Samuel 2:26 " Meanwhile, the boy Samuel grew taller and grew in favor with the Lord and with the people."
3) Crazy actions lead to captured anointing...1st Samuel 4:19-22 " Eli’s daughter-in-law, the wife of Phinehas, was pregnant and near her time of delivery. When she heard that the Ark of God had been captured and that her father-in-law and husband were dead, she went into labor and gave birth. 20 She died in childbirth, but before she passed away the midwives tried to encourage her. “Don’t be afraid,” they said. “You have a baby boy!” But she did not answer or pay attention to them.21 She named the child Ichabod (which means “Where is the glory?”), for she said, “Israel’s glory is gone.” She named him this because the Ark of God had been captured and because her father-in-law and husband were dead. 22 Then she said, “The glory has departed from Israel, for the Ark of God has been captured.”
-The greatest hurt of all, is the removed presence of God from your life. NO ONE is worth the absence of God!!!
-Don't be so attached to people that you can't let them go, so that you can go with God!